Identify your opportunity and work hard man.

Most of the time you do not need a big flat to live. A small flat should be good enought to hold a whole family.

But, every so ofter, you need a really big flat to hide when your wife is bugging your children. 

I do not want to hold my child when I am tired.

I want to hold my child when I am very tired.

If you are a father, I think you can understand what I am saying here.

My mom is right. At the times when you really need to express your point of arguement clearly, you find that you do not have enought words to do so. It's time to learn man.

Hi father, If you want to have good communication with your children, you have to give more time to them. Talk to them daily is a way to improve the quality of communication. A small present is an incentive to encourage your children to improve in some way but it does not bring great effect to your relationship. Time is the only single element to archive higher quality communication. If your children willing to talk to you in depth when they are small, they have high chance to do similar things when they grow up and vice versa.

Read through whatding and dearwaterblog's blog, I want to share the following to all you guys on the internet.

Love with emotion is a valuable part of the love process. It fulfills our basic needs and reflects the true value of human being. But, unfortunately, that kind of love doesn't last long. Indeed, would who be willing to get married with one who have fluctuating emotions? To ensure that your love can last long, we have to inject the logical part into our love and relationship. Do agree with what whatding said, you have to understand what you need and what you can give. Also, we have ups and downs in life. To face those difficult challanges after marriage, we have to be mature. Puppy love is only good for film and cinema. Be patient and mature man!!

原文 — whatding — 2006-07-22 00:33:28

看到dearwaterblog的一篇文章，感覺似曾相識。

爸爸很明白這感受，因為爸爸跟她有某些地方很相像。爸爸亦向米奇坦白的表達過，雖然並無結果，但因爸爸沒抱着必有回報之心，所以心也比較平靜。

你可能会覺得，付出了真心卻得不到回報，是很傷心的事。其實能真心地對人付出過，對自已來說，也是一种難得經歷，在付出的過程當中，你的心也在鍛鍊，思想會漸清析，路向也會越明，你会漸漸了解自已需要什麼，能給与對方什麼，當你了解后，你也不会再急於另尋伴侶，懂得等待。

此刻爸爸才明白，米奇說的那番話，她說，當爸爸可以跨越自己的情緒，就可以一双不同的眼睛看事物与人物，懂得分析。

這是經歷過傷痛而得出來的体會，希望你也能体會到。 

 

原文 — dearwaterblog — 2006-07-21 21:43:01

這個星期心情持續維持在低點，憂鬱的情緒緊緊的包圍著我，把我拉到情緒低落的深淵。為什麼我會這樣，都只怪那個他，他的態度讓我無法識從，一會又歡天喜地的來和我傾談，一會又欲言又止，讓我沒法明白，沒法了解。

本以為坦言後，跟他會有起步的一天，誰料就因為這樣，大家都沒法開始了。我很想告訴他我的心意，告訴他我的情況，誰料再也不會有這個機會。至少我不能了，再次被他這樣拒絕後，那個細少的傷好，也開始隠隠作痛。我不想受傷了，與其會令自己痛，倒不如在還未深入發展時抽身而回，這是退縮，也是保護自己的唯一方法。

別人不愛我，我還是要自愛。沒想過要依靠別人，只希望有一個心靈的支柱，一個能跟我平平淡淡相愛的人。但上天總是這樣玩弄我，讓我沒法得到真正的幸福，或許一個人的生活會比二人同行更好。幸福會再來跟我做朋友嗎？但願上天會給我這個機會吧。

At the time when you have nothing to thing of, you are free. I just can't tell whether it is comfortable to have an empty brain, but I can do it easily. I can keep my brain empty on my way to work in the MTR. My wife told me she couldn't make her brain empty, neither do my mom. But for me, it is nothing, simply not to process anything with my brain, then I am absolutely empty, like the standby mode of my TV.  I may be far more stupid than they do. They have complicated minds which are not easy to shutdown. Mine is simple stupid.